In the present moment, we recognize transient feelings and needs as valid and real. There is nothing to be ashamed of or try to conceal! If our needs are met we feel happy. If our needs are not met, we feel unhappy. There is nothing to fight about or suffer about. Accepting the presence of our feelings and needs are the first step. Honesty is about being present with ourselves first and those who love us are able to be present with us and validate our feelings and needs. To love is to recognize the essence of our own humanity and everyone else’s humanity no matter how young or old or foreign they are. We all share the same need to be present with each other. Recognizing the presence of others is very joyful. Looking in someone’s eyes and recognizing them as as a miraculous living being (just like ourselves) is the essence of being happy.